Often times no one can tell when a man is in pain or has a
struggle that he cannot handle because men have learned how to mask pain and
struggle since childhood. We were taught that crying was essentially a sign of
total weakness. As a result, we develop throughout our lives ignoring the
obvious pain that we have from various incidents in our lives for the sake of
maintaining the superman persona for the world.
I want to caution
all of my brothers to not remain in silence alone. Not to continue to scream a
silent scream in your head or simply resolve the total matter by displaying
deep seeded anger. When pain is masked, it leads to self-destruction. My
brother, please don't allow the enemy and those who hurt you in the past,
destroy the plan God ordained for your life. No! More! Silence!
How can you, a man, safely navigate leaving your cave of silence without
losing your perception of being strong? First acknowledge that there are issues
that have never been resolved and there is hope beyond the current methods you
have used to mask the pain.
Second, release
the guilt and pain from the experiences to Christ. How? Cast your every
thought, care, anger, guilt, rejection, hurt, abandonment upon the Lord because
He is so...concerned about you man. Jesus is not concerned about the perception
of society and how they define weakness and strength. His perspective is in
your weakness His strength is made perfect.
Third, find a
strong Christian brother who you can be transparent with. Unmask and tell him
the issues that cause you to hurt in silence. Ask him to commit to praying for
and with you on a consistent basis. The moment you open your mouth and begin to
speak about the pain of the divorce, the death of a loved one, the issues of
your childhood, you will experience such a release in your spirit that you have
never experienced before.
Fourth, mediate on
the word of God. Allow His word to minister to every wound that is oozing with
pain. Mediate on Isaiah 26:3, "I will keep him in perfect peace who keeps
his mind stayed on me." Also reflect on Psalm 91. The bible is replete
with scriptures that will bring continual healing to your spirit.
Listen my brother!
You do not have to remain in silence any longer. God is concerned about you and
the pain that you have in your spirit. You are not alone, there are millions of
men who continue to mask during the day and unmask at home never to find the deliverance
and resolve they so desperately seek.
No! More! Silence!
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